a talk show

ME: Am I suplado?
SHE: Oo. Sometimes.
ME: Why d'you say that?
SHE: Because it's true. Do you want me to lie?
ME: I'm a snob with a handful of stalkers.
SHE: That's what makes you attractive to them kaya shit! (Laughs)
ME: Do you like me when I'm suplado?
SHE: Ay putik! Stop it! It's irritating! (tweaks my left ear)
ME: Well, do you? Ha? Ha?
SHE: Depends.
ME: Does it turn you on?
SHE: (Laughs) Sometimes.
ME: So I guess it's really not a bad thing.
SHE: Sometimes.
ME: Why do my stalkers persist? There's something wrong with me.
SHE: No. (Pauses) Fishing ka ha.
ME: Is it okay to have stalkers?
SHE: (Sighs) Cho-kulit. No.
ME: But you're cool about it?
SHE: CAN'T do anything about it.
ME: Are stalkers all the same to you?
SHE: No.
ME: You like some of them?
SHE: Course not!
ME: Do they make you insecure?
SHE: Sometimes.
ME: Then... that's not good. D'you want me to do something about it?
SHE: Ako na lang.
ME: What does that mean?
SHE: Ako na lang gagawa ng paraan.
ME: But some stalkers can be really nice. They don't really push IT.
SHE: Hmm... Pano sila naging stalker?
ME: When they text or email me, is that stalking?
SHE: Riiight.
ME: But they don't ask me to do stupid stuff. Some send me quotes or wish me well. Those are nice. And what's nicer is that I don't reply...riiight?
SHE: Hmp! Sometimes.
ME: Am I a snob in a good way?
SHE: Yep.
ME: So...I guess you don't want me to change. Di rin mawawala ang stalkers?
SHE: Oo.
ME: Buti you're not suplada. (Pauses) Mataray ka lang. And that scares me sometimes.

For a couple who's been together for about 4 years, it turns out that we haven't run out of things to talk about.

Amazing.

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kids should know that...

In "A Study of Women Who Stalk", by Purcell, Pathé and Mullen, the authors concluded that the two major psychiatric variables that differentiate female from male stalkers is motivation for stalking and choice of victim. Female stalkers seek intimacy with the victim, who usually is someone already known. The victim is most often chosen from those who assume a professional role of helper. This could be a doctor or nurse, a therapist or counselor. Context was found to differ, but the conclusion was the intrusiveness and harmfulness did not. Female stalkers are potentially as dangerous as any male stalker. (wikipedia)